Hello, soapbox!

Loyalty… it’s a wonderful thing and yet, so unattainable.  Seriously.   Let’s say I have tickets to the next 50 super bowls, I’m guessing I’m going to have some loyal football-watching friends that glue themselves to me like a sucker to a napkin, but are they really loyal?  How do you know?  Look at all those amazing celebrities like Sandra Bullock that have lives that suck in spite of themselves.

I guess the moral of the story is to have nothing.  If you have nothing and they still choose to be your friend, you know you’ve got loyalty.  So I guess you have something then, don’t you?  But it’s not the something that can pay for your taxes or get you that cute new pair of shoes at Dillards.  Damn it!

Loyalty is illusive.  It’s hard to find people that won’t stab you in the back for a trip to Bermuda or find their own oxygen mask before yours.  Then again, can I really blame them?  Come on, I, too, want a vacay and a little oxygen when my plane is crashing.  That is kinda high on my priority list, but…

I’ve seen it!  I want it!  I want loyalty.  I want friends.  I want to know who to count on.  I want all of it! And, well, unlike some of the rest of you, I have it.  I have a husband that I don’t deserve.  He defends me even when I make a giant donkey of myself.  Now, will he go to a musical or a children’s Christmas program for me?  Uh, hell no!  but he loves me, nonetheless and I know I should be supremely thankful for that and I am. 

If you don’t have that, find it.  As an adult, I realize how valuable it is.  As a child, I realize how impressive it is.  I was putting together a 50th wedding anniversary for my parents when I contacted some old family friends of my parents to let them know about an event 6 months away and thousands of miles from where they live.  There was no, “we’ll see what’s on the calendar.” or “we’ll TRY to make it.”  There was just a simple, “see you there!”  And that’s what I aspire to surround myself with – people that all answer “yes” for me any day of the week and especially when I’m puking my guts out and need 7up delivered. 

Sometimes in our world, we forget what’s really important because we’re too busy trying to pay the damn cable bill, but today I wish you well on the quest to finding loyalty, and if you have it – buy ‘em a drink or send them a free Hallmark e-card, but consider yourself lucky.   And don’t call me if you’re passed out by the toilet, that’s for one of your loyal friends.